If you are like much of the population, your four-legged friend is
your first "baby." Many people worry needlessly about how their dog will
handle a baby in their life. Many owners think of getting rid of the
family pets because of fears that they will harm the baby. Please do not
do this unless there is no other option. Most dogs, when treated and
trained properly, can handle life with a newborn very well.
Children
and pets make wonderful companions when raised properly together and
taught how to behave with each other. Children that grow up in a home
with pets learn respect and love for animals, and more importantly,
respect for life. As the children grow older they can learn
responsibility by helping to care for the animals. Animals enrich our
and our children's lives beyond belief.
Having a baby can cause
problems for both humans and dogs, as the dog tends to be treated
differently, and because of this, may act differently. Some owners baby
the dog more, causing the dog to become spoiled and hard to handle.
Other owners get over-stressed and punish the dog for normal, curious
behavior toward the baby. Often our pets are the center of our world,
our "babies" if you would, and can get "jealous" if not equipped to
handle losing that status to the new baby. If you are willing to make
the time and effort to prepare your pets for the new arrival, everyone
can live in harmony.
Sometimes the dogs become overprotective of
the baby. Many owners enjoy and even prefer the dog being a guard for
the baby. While it is normal for the dog to become protective of the
baby, it is dangerous for the dog to become overprotective and not let
anyone near the baby. All of the above scenarios can lead to the dog
being kicked out of the house!
As you are making preparations to
bring home baby, you need to prepare your dog(s) for the same in advance
if possible. While most dogs will be very gentle with the baby, many
dogs do not see babies as humans because of their size, smell, and the
strange noises they make. By taking the time to give your dog some extra
love and attention he should be fine and not turn to bad behavior to
get your attention. You need to prepare and educate your dog for what
lies ahead. This will ensure that they are ready and willing to accept
the new family member with open and loving paws.
Using calming
remedies (herbs, aromatherapy, oils) and or prescription medications are
also an option to help facilitate a better behaved dog. You can talk to
your veterinarian to inquire about these products and the implications
associated with their use. I am a believer in the holistic approach
whenever possible, instead of using drugs.
Please, please always
be aware that your dog is an animal and animals can bite or do harm to a
baby, intentionally or unintentionally. No matter how well-behaved or
loving your dog is NEVER LEAVE YOUR DOG ALONE WITH YOUR BABY! I cannot
stress this enough. Accidents can happen. You do not want to harm your
baby or have to get rid of your dog because of an unfortunate, and
possibly avoidable, incident.
If you are unsure that
your dog will accept your new baby, please seek the advice of a
professional trainer or behaviorist before making any decisions.
Believe
it or not, your behavior with, and toward your dog matters. It can make
or break your dog's acceptance of and respect for your baby. If you act
like a leader, you will be treated like a leader. You want your dog to
respect every human being in your household, including your baby. You
must teach your dog respect for the baby. This will make life easier for
all those involved.
Be firm but fair-
Do
not let your dog get away with things, but don't be a drill sergeant
either! Try to make any corrections as gentle as possible, but make sure
they are effective. Try to have fun with your dog and the training -
you both need to enjoy it or neither one will want to continue!
Your tone of voice matters-
DO
NOT YELL at your dog! Convey the meaning of the command through the
tone of voice - match your voice to what you are telling your dog.
Commands should be short and succinct, in a low, almost growling voice.
Your voice should not get higher as you give the command. Do not sing to
your dog or ask the dog a question! You will not get the answer you
want! When giving praise, sound like you mean it! It should be the
opposite of a command - higher pitched and enthusiastic. If your dog
gets overly excited when you praise him, tone it down a bit and speak
softly. Your dog will still understand that he is doing a good job, but
he will be less likely to jump around and be crazy.
Be calm and assertive-
Our dogs feed off of our energies and emotions. This affects their behaviors and reactions. If we are relaxed and confident, our dogs will feel the same, and know that we are LEADING them, and they do not have to lead us.
Use a crate-
If
your dog does not already use a crate, now is the time to start. A
crate is not cruel, it can actually be a wonderful and safe place for
your dog. Confining your dog at certain times, such as for sleep or
times when you cannot supervise, is no different than putting your baby
in its crib for the same. It is actually very easy to teach your dog to
accept being in the crate. Most people think that a dog who has not used
a crate before will have a hard time, but that is not usually true. My
two older dogs started using the crate when they were 7 and 8 years old,
about the time my son started crawling and exploring on his own. This
allowed me to know that both my child and my dogs were safe and nothing
bad could happen. Your child can be hurt by your dog as easy as your
child could hurt your dog. The problem lies in the fact that if the dog
makes even the slightest threat to your baby or even inadvertently hurts
your baby, it is your dog's fault. It is not fair to the dog for
something like that to happen because you were not supervising the two
together at all times!
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